Hurt People Heal People Too

We often hear the phrase: “Hurt people hurt people.”
It’s said so often it almost feels like a universal truth. Yes, pain can spill over. Wounds can echo into the way we treat others. But it’s not the whole story.

I came across the phrase the other week in a different way, an image saying lines of choices and coming to the conclusion that not all hurt people hurt people, but hurt people heal people too.

Because not all hurt people hurt people.
Some hurt people do choose another path.

Some spend their lives making sure no one else feels the same kind of pain they once carried. Some break cycles and patterns that have weighed heavy on families and communities for generations. Some use their own scars as maps, guiding others gently through the dark. And some turn their pain into purpose, building safe spaces, offering compassion, becoming healers in both small and profound ways.

No, not all hurt people hurt people.
Some hurt people do choose another path.

When we’ve walked through suffering, and probably we all have, we were given a unique gift: the ability to understand. It’s a choice. It's a choice again to notice the quiet signals others might miss. To offer kindness not as an obligation, but as a lifeline.

Healing doesn’t mean pretending the hurt and pain never happened. It means holding it tenderly and choosing again and again to respond with love. Even though…

Because you know the uncertain ground very well, the aching silence and because you know, your compassion can hold the lantern for someone else. You can say to them “I see you. You’re not alone. You matter.” …and that’s the practice, day by day.

If your own pain feels raw right now, know this: you are not broken. You are becoming.
If you feel weary from carrying old wounds, know this: your tenderness is a strength, not a weakness.
If you wonder whether your story matters, know this: you are already a beacon for someone else.

Your pain is not the end of your story. It can be the soil from which empathy, compassion, and courage grow 🙏

So yes, hurt people can hurt people. But hurt people can heal people too.
And every time you choose gentleness, compassion, and presence, even in the smallest ways, you are proof of that.

I see you and you matter more you know🙏🏼

Always with love,
Boglárka✨