Be the Light - reflections at Christmas

This morning I found myself wrapped in my Christmas jumper again, my little dog curled into me, the house quiet.

Across my chest, simple words: Be the light.

Not loud.

Not dazzling.

Just… there… present.

At Christmas, “being the light” is often misunderstood, I feel. We imagine it means cheerfulness at all costs, endless energy, festive sparkle that never dims. But real light doesn’t behave like that. If you watch the lights on the tree, what do you notice?

Well, real light doesn’t shout.

It doesn’t perform.

It doesn’t push itself into places it isn’t welcome.

Real light rests, and by resting, it warms the hearts.

…and light isn’t perfection either, it’s presence..

So many of us feel a pressure to be the light for everyone else, especially at this time of year. To hold the magic. To smooth the edges. To keep traditions alive while pushing our tired bodies and tender hearts… but light isn’t something you manufacture when you’re depleted, right?

Light is what happens when you are allowed to be real. Something just lights up about you, because it's real, authentic, it shines from your heart.

Sometimes being the light is even quieter than we expect.

It’s allowing yourself to pause instead of pushing on.

Letting an emotion move instead of masking it with gratitude in the heat of the moment.

Choosing gentleness where expectations once lived.

Listening when the body says “This is enough for today.”

This isn’t resignation, you know.

This is conscious presence… because being human includes difficult moments, it's just part of being in the flesh and when we allow them to be felt, they complete their cycle. And from there, we get to choose again🙏

True light doesn’t come from effort or endurance.

It rises when the nervous system feels safe enough to soften… and from that steadiness, clarity and choice naturally return.

So from a holistic perspective, light doesn’t start in the mind, it starts in the body. When it is allowed to settle and trust.

When your body, your nervous system feels safe, your breath deepens, your shoulders soften, your heart opens without effort …and that state ripples outward.

Your children feel it.

Your loved ones feel it.

Even the room feels different.

So you don’t need to teach light. You embody it by tending yourself gently. You are being the light for your children, because they don’t need a perfect Christmas. They need you regulated, real, and reachable.

When you pause instead of pushing, when you breathe instead of bracing, when you allow feelings to move instead of shutting them down, you show them something far more powerful than sparkle, I believe in this and this is why I have stopped hiding and masking my feelings in front of my kids:

✨ It’s safe to be human.

✨ Feelings pass.

✨ Love doesn’t disappear when things feel hard. Probably this is the most important thing, because in many cases we feel that we loose love of we have an argument or a reaction from someone. But that's not true, so I always tell.my kids that I love them, even if we have a difficult conversation or we get upset, that's part of being human ✨ …and they get it…”all I want for Christmas is” that wired in their brain, coded in their nervous system for life🙏

I feel that is the light that lasts. At least in my personal experience and that's what I can share with you🙏

Light can be quiet. Yes, just holding my dog this morning, I was reminded of that light is that warmth, not brilliance. A steady presence. A soft hand. A calm breath….

….a moment of stillness in the middle of the noise. That's all many times….a moment of stillness in the middle of the noise…. I know you have heard it a million times, but I truly hope it lands in your heart today. …let's take a deep breath together…really, because that's inviting life and light with it in. Fully… see how it makes you feel…

Seriously, you don’t need to shine brighter. You don’t need to do more. You don’t need to hold it all together.

You are already light. When I say keep shining, I never mean asking you to try harder or be brighter, I’m inviting you to tend your heart’s light with care.

And just remember that your light doesn’t disappear when you’re tired. It doesn’t dim when you slow down. It deepens when you choose tenderness.

Especially then.

Because your light isn’t something you perform for the world.

It’s something you live from🙏 softly, honestly, humanly.

And every time you meet yourself with love,

your light continues to shine💛🐝

This Christmas, may you remember that you don’t have to create light, because you are it.

You don’t have to perform peace, you can rest into it.

You don’t have to carry everyone, you are allowed to be held too.

May your light be gentle🙏

May it begin within🙏

And may it warm you first🙏

Always with love

B✨💛🐝