The reality of this season -A gentle Christmas message for the mums behind the magic
Christmas is meant to feel magical… right?
That’s what we see everywhere, in social media posts, shop windows, high streets glowing with lights and lovely decorations. On the outside, it all looks warm, sparkly, and full.
And yet… for so many mums, the inner reality feels very different.
Yes, Christmas is meant to feel magical.
And still, it often becomes the most emotionally loaded season of the year.
More lists.
More expectations.
More memories, both tender and painful.
More pressure to hold it together so everyone else can enjoy themselves.
If you’re reading this and nodding quietly, this is your gentle permission slip to pause… to acknowledge that this is the truth for many… and then to breathe.
Because feeling is healing, and nowhere is that more needed than in this twinkly, overwhelming stretch of the festive season.
Christmas stirs more than we expect
Holidays have a way of waking things up.
Old family dynamics.
Grief for people no longer at the table.
Inner children who remember not feeling seen, safe, or enough.
The invisible pressure to be grateful, joyful, sparkly, even when you’re exhausted and stretched thin.
So many mums tell me “I just want everyone to be happy.”, “I don’t want to ruin Christmas.”, “I should feel lucky really… why am I so emotional?”
Here’s the reframe your nervous system needs to hear:
✨ You are not failing at Christmas.
✨ Your feelings are not an inconvenience.
✨ Your body is responding intelligently to a lot.
From a holistic perspective, emotions are not festive nuisances, but they are signals from the body asking for care…
As mums, we are often the scaffolding holding Christmas and the family together.
We regulate everyone else’s feelings while quietly sidelining our own.
We keep going even when we’re running on empty.
We smile through overwhelm because “it’s only once a year.”
But the body remembers.
The heart remembers.
This season is not just about parenting, it’s about healing what was never tended to in us, breaking patterns while still living inside them, and bridging generations with very little space to rest.
That is not light work, amazing human!
So please meet yourself gently where you are. This is where EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) can become a soft yet effective anchor.
Not to fix how you feel.
Not to force calm or positivity.
But to be with yourself kindly and take the heat off heavy emotions so you can catch your breath.
Tapping gently allows you to say:
“Even though this feels like too much right now… I’m allowed support.”
“Even though I’m tired and emotional… I’m still a good mum.”
“Even though part of me just wants it all to stop… I’m safe.”
This is nervous-system care wrapped in compassion and it matters deeply at this time of year.
EFT tapping points
🌿 EFT Tapping Points (Shorts + Names)
KC / K-CH – Karate Chop (side of the hand)
EB – Eyebrow (inner edge of the eyebrow)
SE – Side of Eye (on the bone at the outer corner of the eye)
UE – Under Eye (on the bone under the eye)
UN – Under Nose (between nose and upper lip)
CH – Chin (centre of the chin, just below the lower lip)
CB – Collarbone (just below the collarbone, near the sternum)
UA – Under Arm (about a hand’s width below the armpit)
I’ve shared a short blend of EFT, pathworking, and affirmations, created as if we were sitting together, holding space, so you can claim those 11 precious minutes to recalibrate whenever you need. A simple festive pause you can try now here.
No perfection. No performance. Just presence. Okay?
You can also just
1. Gently tap on the side of your hand (karate chop point)
2. Take a slower, deeper breath than the usual (maybe the first deep breath you have taken today or in weeks)..
3. Say quietly (or in your mind): “Even though I’m doing my best and it still feels hard sometimes, I honour how I feel.”
4. Move through a few tapping points, repeating words that feel true, or simply tapping if words won’t come. Tapping without phrases can ease tension too. That’s the beauty of working with the meridian system.
Supporting your children without losing yourself
Christmas can be big for children too with all the excitement, overstimulation, broken routines, emotional meltdowns that seem to appear out of nowhere. Here’s the part many mums forget: You don’t have to absorb every wobble. Observe, don't absorb. EFT can help you through the intensity of the wobbles and when you use EFT for yourself, you naturally become a calmer, safer presence for your children. Regulation is contagious 😋✨
You might even tap together: “Even though Christmas feels big and noisy, we are safe.”
“Even though feelings are loud today, they can calm again.”
This isn’t about creating a picture-perfect Christmas.
It’s about creating an embodied, felt sense of safety and connection.
For many of us, Christmas touches the deepest layers. The part that learnt to be “good”.
The part that didn’t want to disappoint.
The part that still feels responsible for everyone else’s happiness.
EFT gives you a way to turn towards that inner child and say:
“I see you.”
“You don’t have to carry this alone anymore.”
“You are allowed to rest.”
“I hold you in my arm, in my heart.”
…and when that part of you feels safer, Christmas softens.
So this Christmas, I don’t wish you a perfect table, perfect plans, or perfect calm.
I wish you
🫶Permission to feel what you feel(because feeling is healing 🙏🏼)
🫶Tools to support your nervous system
🫶Moments of stillness amidst the sparkle
🫶And the deep knowing that you matter too
…because when you allow yourself to feel, gently, honestly, without judgement,healing naturally follows. Tiny shifts that are tangible, senses in your body.
And any season becomes more real, more meaningful, and more precious because of its humanness.
Together we are breaking patterns, tending our own trauma, and raising spiritual, resilient humans.
Let me know how you feel, where you are and what think about this topic🙏🏼👐✨
I am sending my love to you all…always
B💛🐝
